Nicole Kidman is no stranger to the public eye, but the Oscar-winning actress has always managed to keep her personal life grounded—even when the world is watching. Now, as news of her divorce from country superstar Keith Urban becomes public, sources close to Kidman say she’s handling the heartbreak with a surprising sense of calm and clarity.

A Private Struggle, Made Public

On Tuesday, September 30, Kidman officially filed for divorce in Nashville, citing irreconcilable differences. The filing came just one day after news broke that the couple, who had been married for 19 years, had quietly separated earlier in the summer. According to PEOPLE’s exclusive sources, Kidman had been “dreading” the moment her breakup would become public knowledge.

“She’s been stressed because she knew the separation would eventually become public and she was dreading it,” a source close to the family shares. For Kidman, the anticipation of headlines and speculation was almost as difficult as the split itself.

But now that the news is out, Kidman is showing the world a different side—one of quiet strength and unwavering focus. “She’s surprisingly level-headed and calm. Now that it’s out she’s just focused on what’s ahead and her girls,” the source continues.

Family First: Kidman’s Heartfelt Focus

For Nicole Kidman, family has always been at the center of her world. After marrying Keith Urban in 2006, the couple welcomed two daughters, Sunday Rose, 17, and Faith Margaret, 14. In her divorce filing, Kidman requested to be the primary residential parent, emphasizing her role as a devoted mother.

Insiders say the Kidman family has rallied around Nicole during this difficult time, with her sister Antonia providing particular support. The siblings were spotted walking together in Nashville on Wednesday, October 1, marking Kidman’s first public appearance since the announcement.

“She didn’t want this,” another insider revealed, noting that Nicole had been fighting to save her marriage. “The entire Kidman family has come together to support one another.”

A History of Heartbreak—and Healing

This isn’t the first time Nicole Kidman has faced the end of a high-profile marriage. In the 1990s, she was married to Tom Cruise, with whom she shares two children, Bella, 32, and Connor, 30. The aftermath of that divorce played out in the tabloids, leaving Kidman wary but resolute.

Reflecting on those years, Kidman told Harper’s Bazaar in 2021 that the experience made her “a bit more trepidatious, but I’m always trying to be as open as possible.” She acknowledged the pain, but also the importance of staying warm and open-hearted. “I’m wary at times, and I’ve been hurt, but at the same time I much prefer a warm approach rather than a prickly shutdown approach.”

Urban once asked Kidman, “How’s your heart?” She famously replied, “Open.” It’s a sentiment she seems to carry into every chapter of her life, even the painful ones.

The Calm After the Storm

Now, as Kidman faces another wave of public scrutiny, she’s choosing resilience over drama. Sources say she’s focused on her daughters, her work, and her future. “She’s just focused on what’s ahead and her girls,” says the family source.

Kidman’s approach stands in stark contrast to the typical Hollywood divorce narrative. There are no public outbursts, no social media rants—just a quiet determination to move forward. For fans and followers, it’s a reminder that even in the midst of heartbreak, grace is possible.

What’s Next for Nicole Kidman?

With her personal life in transition, Kidman is turning her attention to her career. The actress has a slate of projects lined up, including the highly anticipated return of Big Little Lies, a sequel to Practical Magic, and a starring role in Margo’s Got Money Troubles and Lioness. Her work has always been a source of strength, and sources say she’s channeling her energy into her craft.

“Nicole is a professional,” says a close friend. “She’s always found comfort and purpose in her work. Right now, she’s pouring herself into her projects and her family.”

A New Chapter, Written with Grace

Divorce is never easy, especially under the glare of the spotlight. But Nicole Kidman’s calm resolve is inspiring fans and fellow celebrities alike. Social media has lit up with messages of support, admiration, and encouragement.

“She’s showing us all how to handle heartbreak with dignity,” wrote one fan on Instagram. “Nicole Kidman is pure class.”

Industry insiders agree. “Nicole’s ability to stay level-headed in the face of adversity is why she’s so respected,” says a Hollywood producer who’s worked with Kidman. “She’s a true professional, but more importantly, she’s a genuinely kind person.”

No Drama, Just Strength

While some sources have hinted at drama behind the scenes, with reports that Urban “seems he’s already moved on,” Kidman has chosen not to engage in public disputes. Reps for both Kidman and Urban have declined to comment, keeping the focus on family and privacy.

For Kidman, the priority remains her daughters, her well-being, and her future. Friends say she’s determined to shield her girls from unnecessary attention and provide them with stability during this transition.

Lessons from the Past, Hope for the Future

Nicole Kidman’s journey through heartbreak and healing is one that resonates with many. She’s faced loss, endured public scrutiny, and emerged with a sense of clarity and purpose. Her story is a reminder that even in the most challenging moments, it’s possible to choose grace over chaos.

As she looks to the future, Kidman is embracing the next chapter with open arms. Whether on screen or off, her resilience continues to inspire.